On their 50th wedding anniversary, a couple summed up the reason for their long and happy marriage. The husband said, "I have tried never to be selfish. After all, there is no 'i' in the word 'marriage.'" The wife said, "For my part, I have never corrected my husband's spelling."
“Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.” Ephesians 4:29
Let no unwholesome word come out of your mouth, but only words that build others up. If we obeyed this little nugget of God’s Word, what would some of us say at the café or the beauty shop or around the dinner table, of course, followed by a proper “bless their heart!” This instruction requires discipline, discernment, and dedication. First, we must be dedicated to obeying God’s Word and loving others. Love must be a priority in our lives. If we care about others more than ourselves, we’ll use a little constraint and think about what we say. Second, we need a little discernment. Our words should build others up, not tear them down. We may not know someone’s situation, circumstances, or trials, but if we listen to them and get to know them, we can probably say something that encourages them. Finally, we need discipline. If we need to keep our mouth closed to prevent insult and injury, then we must keep our mouth closed. Yes, I’m speaking from experience, daily experience. So, if it’s not true, kind or necessary – it’s probably time to zip it.